Sometimes, thinking about our ancestors is a source of grief. Because we miss people no longer living, or because we feel a profound sense of separation from them. There are many ways to live with and express grief, and we can learn from each other as we do this.
How do you express your grief in healthy ways?
Different cultures have different ways of being in relationship with the ancestors. Sometimes, what is emphasized is an ongoing relationship. Sometimes, it’s memory.
What are your cultural traditions and teachings regarding ancestors?
“Some people are your relatives but others are your ancestors, and you choose the ones you want to have as ancestors. You create yourself out of those values.” -Ralph Ellison
What are the values you have created yourself out of? Where did they come from?
“My ancestors include Monahwee, who was one of the leaders in the Red Stick War, which was the largest Indian uprising in history, and Osceola, who refused to sign a treaty with the United States.” -Joy Harjo
How might your ancestors have participated in resistance against oppression?
“But for the sacrifices made by some of your ancestors, you would not be here; they have paid for you. So, when you enter a challenging situation, bring them on the stage with you; let their distant voices add timbre and strength to your words. For it is your job to pay for those who are yet to come.”- Maya Angelou
Who do you bring on stage with you in a challenging situation?
